
Lawyers are revved up all day at the office, and come home with an agitated mind which is locked into ego-protection mode or problem-solving mode and filled with quickly shifting thoughts, feelings and mini-movies that replay the day’s most stressful events. In this state of mind many lawyers reach for something to slow the churning within their minds and release the tension in their bodies. It is common for them to consume alcohol, overeat comfort food and watch “dumb” TV shows, which could be reality TV shows, late night talk shows, or both. This habitual approach to unwinding isn’t effective in promoting sleep. It not only delays the onset of badly needed sleep, but tends to cause interrupted or fitful sleep. When lawyers see a psychologist for stress one of their most common complaints is insomnia. Here are some Dos and Don’ts for getting a good night’s sleep.
Do These Things For a Good Night’s Sleep
Eat a healthful meal slowly, pausing to chew your food well and savor its flavor. If you’re having wine, drink in moderation and sip it rather than gulp it. Keep it to one or two glasses and be sure to drink water. Too much wine is dehydrating and will disturb your sleep. Keep portion size reasonable. My physician recommends three fist sized portions of a protein (like chicken, fish, beef or pork), a vegetable (like a green salad or steamed broccoli) and a starch (like baked potato, pasta or rice). When you consume gargantuan portions of food at dinner or you come back to the fridge after dinner to scarf down a pint of ice cream you are overloading and distending your stomach and making yourself physically uncomfortable as well as overloading your digestive system.
After dinner, if the weather is pleasant, go outside and talk a walk. Whether you walk the dog, walk alone or walk with a family member or friend, this is a great way to unwind and aid healthy digestion. Vigorous exercise close to bedtime is not a good idea as this increases heart rate and respiration and has the effect of waking and energizing the body, just when you want to be relaxing.
Do something pleasant to divert your mind from anxiety generating conflicts at the law office. This could be watching a funny movie, reading a novel, watching an interesting program on the History Channel or Discovery Channel with your kids or chatting on the phone with a relative or friend to see what’s going on in their lives.
If you have pain from a sore throat, headache, toothache or other condition, be sure to take enough pain medication to make you comfortable all night. If your nose or ears are stuffed up from a cold, then take enough decongestant to make it through the night.
Give a massage to or get one from your spouse or partner or, if you’re both in the mood, have sex. Massage and sex are both fun ways to release tension which are mutually nurturing, enrich your relationship and keep you affectionate (which helps when you argue later in the week!)
Take a shower or luxuriate in a warm bath, especially one with fragrant bath salts.
Nibble a piece of dark chocolate. It stimulates production of serotonin which enhances sleep.
Make sure you have a comfortable mattress and a comfortable pillow. The room should be as dark as possible. Digital alarm clocks and DVD players glow in the dark so you should cover them. You also want a comfortable temperature, no higher than 70 degrees Fahrenheit. Men like me will roast under too many blankets.
Keep a clean and tidy bedroom. A messy, cluttered bedroom makes for a messy, cluttered mind when you’re trying to fall asleep.
Keep computers and other electronic devices that buzz out of the room. If you must have them in your bedroom make sure they are at least three feet from your bed.
If you’re still having some difficulty getting to sleep after all of these sleep-promoting activities, then try listening to an audio CD or download to help you get to sleep. You can buy a CD called Deep Sleep with Medical Self-Hypnosis by Dr. Steven Gurgevich for about $13 on from www.soundstrue.com. There are some excellent mind/body relaxation downloads at marc.ucla.edu on the left column under meditations. Some people are helped to sleep listening to a CD of the sound of waves washing ashore. Some benefit from a white noise machine or a room fan.
Don’t Do These Things Before Going to Bed
If you drink coffee, coke or another caffeinated beverage with dinner or after dinner you’re asking for trouble. Caffeine blocks sleep promoting histamines and keeps us alert and wired when we want to be drowsy and tired.
Don’t do something that will agitate or worry you near to bed time. For some people paying bills or having “that talk” with your kid about his low grades at school or his unsavory friends is quite agitating and this would be better done earlier in the day.
Don’t watch reality TV. In June 2010 BYU Professor Sara Coyne, Ph.D. published a study showing that reality TV shows have 52 acts of aggression compared to 33 per hour for non-reality shows. For the purposes of her study aggression referred to verbal, physical and relational acts of aggression including slights, insults, backbiting and dirty looks. The Apprentice topped the list at 85 acts of verbal or relational acts per hour with American Idol further down the list at 57 per hour. Dr. Coyne’s focus was on how the meanness of these shows rubs off on viewers and coarsens them. My concern for lawyers is that watching shows like these near bedtime will prompt recollection of verbal clashes at work, re-stimulate their nervous system and put them into fight-flight when they should be calming down in preparation for deep sleep.
If these things help you get that restful, refreshing, invigorating sleep you’ve longed for, then that’s wonderful. If you still have problems sleeping, and these problems have continued for more than a month I suggest you see your physician. Chronic insomnia is different from transient sleeplessness. If you have chronic insomnia, it’s possible you are having a mood disorder (anxiety or depression) or some form of sleep disorder.